Raise your hand if you’ve ever had a friend who won’t take “no” for an answer! LOL! How many of you are raising your hands? xD
I met this particular friend around 8 years ago. We were members of a support group that was very important to us. When I first met her, I thought she was beautiful, confident, heartfelt, smart, and strong.
We started hanging out and got to know each other better. I discovered she was aggressive, self-righteous, and domineering. She did not like it when I would disagree with her or want to do something other than she did.
At first, I submitted and went along with her opinions and directions. During this time of my life, I was terrified of conflict, intimidated by her aggression, and a legitimate doormat.
Eventually, I found spending time with her to no longer be enjoyable. Unfortunately though, because we were a part of the same family-like support group, I felt like I needed to maintain a cordial relationship with her to feel safe.
As our relationship evolved, I stood up for myself more. The more I said “no”, the more she fought me, and we eventually had a falling out. We reconciled around a year later, but it was short-lived.
One day, she told me that we should go to the beach together that following weekend. I declined because I was in school full-time had a lot of work to do. She proceeded to tell me how unhealthy my life was, that I needed to make time for rest and relaxation, and that I should really go to the beach with her. I continued to politely but firmly decline, and she responded by escalating her frustration and disapproval with greater criticism.
I quickly knew that I was done with her, once again, and told her to leave me alone. Well, this was unacceptable to her so she felt the need to blow up my phone with anger and vitriol for the next 10-15 minutes. I ignored her messages and blocked her number. I knew I had made the right decision. BYE FELICIA!
This next song I wrote about our second falling out. It has been written into a snarky jazz standard that I think is pretty great. I look forward to sharing it with you once it’s been recorded! Please comment or share if you enjoy this and/or relate!
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